Love it or hate it, Sex and the City often provided some sound advice when it came to life and love. Throughout my era of singleness, (singledom?) – I found myself re-watching old episodes more than I care to admit. When I was having a rough day, sometimes the only thing that got me through it was the thought that at the end of the day I’d be curled up on my couch, with an open bottle of wine, watching as Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha attempted to maneuver their way through dating in New York.
SATC Cast c/o HBO
Every so often I’d mumble under my breath, “I am so a *insert SATC character name here*” as I grabbed another slice of pizza. It’s what the single ladies do, right?
No? Just me? Awks. Moving on.
There is one piece of advice that really hit home for me, though. It’s something I’ve heard so many times, but it never sunk in. Don’t you hate when that happens? You hear something, and you know it’s true. In fact – you know it’s so true that you share that advice with others…yet, you don’t follow it yourself.
Anyways, shortly into my era of singleness – I heard this advice again while stuffing my face with pizza and watching SATC, and it was as if it was JUSTthe wakeup call I needed.
Let’s just get right to it. Mental illness does not discriminate. The recent sudden shocking deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain are proof. On paper, and to the outside eye, these two had it all: money, fame, power, success, family…yet these two lives were tragically lost to mental illness.
At any given time, 1 in 5 Canadians will experience a mental health problem or illness. And according to Suicide Prevention Canada, approximately 11 people will end their lives by suicide in Canada today, while approximately 210 others will attempt to end their lives. These numbers have been steadily rising: suicide is one of the leading causes of death in both men and women from adolescence to middle age. We’ve said it before, but it bears repeating: it’s about time the stigma surrounding mental illness is removed and we realize that mental health is health, and needs to be treated as such.
…I offer up my advice, as someone who’s been there.
Oh, hello there. I feel likes it’s been forever since we caught up!
You know what it’s like when you catch a cold and then can’t get rid of the cold but then you kinda feel like your cold is subsiding but then you wake up one morning feeling worse off than you had before? Well, that’s been my past couple of weeks. My throat hurts. I can’t stop sniffling and blowing my nose. I’m exhausted but I can’t sleep through the night. Ugh. It’s been rough, y’all.
Real life isn’t always the silly selfies and picture perfect life you see online. Real life can be hard; real life can be exhausting.
Social media offers only a glimpse into our lives. We choose what we want to share, and what we don’t.
Personally – I always try to be open, sharing the good and the bad.
What you don’t always see though, are the days that I cannot leave my bed; the days where my depression tightens the hold it has on me and I feel so utterly alone and stuck.
What you don’t see are the days where I have full-blown panic attacks; where it feels as though the walls are closing in on me and I can’t breathe, nor see through the overflowing tears.
What you don’t see are the times where my anxiety is so crippling that I’m left questioning myself, my worth, my everything – all because the boogeyman in my head is telling me over and over how unworthy and useless I am.
What I want you to see though is that even through all of this – happiness is possible, you just have to choose to fight for it…to fight for yourself.
…and sometimes we all need that reminder, even me.
You know when you fall into a rut in the kitchen, and you
end up making the same things over and over again and then you wonder why you’re
so bored with cooking and constantly wanting to eat out? Well – that was
happening for me, so I decided to make a change.
I’ve been collecting cook books for years, and rarely ever
opening them. I finally said enough was enough and started planning ahead.
Every Sunday, I scour the books and good old interwebs and come up with a few
recipes I want to cook for Mike and I for the week. Then I out together my
shopping list and hit the grocery store. Grocery shopping by myself is one of
my new favourite things to do! I take my time in the aisles, without having
Mike nagging me to hurry up because he’s bored. LOL
Anyways, I’m going to start sharing some of the recipes I come
up with because almost always, I make some changes to what I read in the books
on the web, and tweak it to make it my own. I recently did this with a sweet
potato gnocchi recipe and holy smokes – it’s a new fave in our house!
I could go one and on about how magical sweet potatoes are or how I have a sweet memory from my childhood regarding gnocchi…but, let’s face it – I hate going to a website for a recipe and I have to scroll through 18 paragraphs of mumble-jumble content before I can finally get to what I was there for in the first place!
Just tell me the ingredients and what to do and be done with it! Am I right?!
Sweet Potato Gnocchi And Rapini In A Browned Garlic And Sage Butter Sauce With Reggiano Parmigiano